Outlined below are questions that are specifically aimed at getting to know each other at deeper levels. It is highly recommended that these questions are assigned in advance so that the responses will reflect some meaningful thought.

It often works well to assign the questions in writing one meeting in advance.

What would you do differently if you had your life to live over? Why?
What would you do differently in you had the last _______ years to live over? Why?
When you were a kid what did you want to be when you grew up? Why?
Think of someone who has significantly influenced your life in a positive way. What are the qualities you admire about that person and how did they affect you?
Go forward ______ years in your life. Looking back to today, what are the major changes (accomplishments) that you have made?
What does “family” mean to you? Why?
What are the primary values you learned from your mother (father)?
Briefly describe your high school years. What was the best part? The worst part?
If you could take one year to learn about any subject you wanted, what would it be? Why?
Describe the personal qualities that you are most attracted to in other people. Why?
How do you choose your closest friends? Why?
Other than your parents, describe a relative or family friend who had the most influence on you as a child or youth. How did they influence you?
What are your hobbies or interests outside of work or family? What aspect of the hobby(s) gives you the greatest enjoyment or satisfaction?
If you could live in another country for one year where would it be? Why?
Describe something that you find hard to do. What do you find hard to do about it? Why do you find this hard?
What was the happiest period in your life? Why?
What are you the most curious about? Why?
What are you most passionate about? Why?
If you could plan the “perfect” day to spend by yourself, what would you do? Why?
What would you most like to stop in your life? Why? When will you stop?

What would you most like to start in your life? Why? When will you start?
What regrets do you have about your life? Why?
Is there anyone in your life that you have never forgiven? Why?
What is the wildest or craziest thing you have ever done? How did you feel when you did it? How do you feel now about doing it?
What part of your work are you the best at? The worst at?
What is one specific meaningful goal that you would like to accomplish in the next ______ years? Why?
If you could change one aspect of your life over the next year, what would it be? Why?
If you could change one aspect of your personality over the next year, what would it be? Why?
If you could change one part of your physical appearance, what would it be? Why?
Do you feel you have a specific purpose in life? What is it? Why do you feel this?
What do you specifically want to get out of your membership in your SAGE Forum? How close are you to getting it now? What suggestions do you have to ensure that your wants get met?
If your children were asked to describe your main personal qualities what do you think they would say? Why?
Other than your family or your business, what are your proudest accomplishments? Why?
What are the things that you have the most difficulty discussing in your SAGE Forum? Why?
When was the last time you felt joy? Not just pleasure – absolute joy. Was it provoked by someone? Something? Somewhere? What can you do to have more joy in your life?
What are the dreams you had a child, before everyone else’s opinion became important, about what you would be doing with your life?
What are the things that you have always been good at and come naturally to you?
If you had to teach some lessons about life to others, what would you teach? Why? What would you want to teach? Why?
What were your favorite things to do as a child, before you got too caught up in “life”?
What do you find the most meaningful in life? Why?
What would it take for you to feel truly happy, successful and content?

Describe a time when you felt completely happy?
- Where were you?
- What were you doing?
- Who was with you?
- What was it that made you happy?
Describe a time when someone said something to you or treated you in a way that it made a positive impact on your life?
- Who was it?
- What was it that impacted you?
- How has it impacted your life today?
Describe a time you felt really special to someone else.
- Who was it?
- What made you feel special to them?
- How did you feel?
If you could learn anything you wanted:
- What would it be?
- Why would you want to learn it?
- How could learning it change your life?
- Why don’t you learn it?
What do you want to do for certain before your life is over? Why?
What makes you happy?
When were you the happiest in your life? Why?
What would you say is your greatest strength? Why?
What do you like most about yourself?
- What creates that quality?
- How can you make that quality last?
- When did you have that quality the most?
- How could you create more of this quality?
What gives you true “peace of mind”? Why?

What circumstances brings out the “best in you”? Why?
Who appreciates you the most? Why?
Who do you include in your emotional support network?
Were you considered creative as a child? In what areas? How are you creative in life now?
What is your proudest achievement in life thus far? Why?
Is there anything you would sacrifice your life for? What is it? Why?
What words would you use to describe your father?
What words would you use to describe your mother?
What words would your father use to describe you?
What words would your mother use to describe you?
What words would you use to describe yourself?
What emotional storms have you weathered?
If you could, what parts of yourself would you throw out?
Imagine three people sitting in chairs talking about you. Who are they? What are they saying?
What are you afraid of exposing about yourself? Why?
What doors have you closed in life? How do you feel about this?
What bridges have you burned in life? How do you feel about this?
What makes you feel vulnerable? Why?
What are you holding on to from the past? Is it helping or hindering you today?
What makes life magical for you? Why?
What do you hunger for? Why?
What are you superstitious about? Why?
What makes you feel lonely?
What habits have you formed that enhance your life?
What habits have you formed that restrict your life?
In what area(s) of your life do you consider yourself to be a survivor?
What inspires you? Why?

What don’t you understand?
What do you hold sacred? Why?
What is your idea of perfection?
What fascinates you? Why?
What can you do to simplify your life?
What makes you feel loved?
What major risks have you taken in your life?
What are the major challenges facing you over the next ______ year(s)?
What are you grateful for in your life right now?
What insights about yourself have you discovered?
What insights about life have you discovered?